There are two types of abuse in Jyotish that are based on two planets: Mars and Venus.

Mars
Mars is about direct influence: verbal insults, curses, and viol*ence.

Venus
Venus is more subtle: gas*lighting, manipulations, narcissistic disorder.

Why do people fall into abuse?
Abuse consists of two factors: low mindfulness + unreleased potential of the houses, where your Venus and Mars lie.

For example, if a person has Mars in the 2nd house - house of money - and they don't have a stable income, they start abusing their partner to compensate for the lack of money.

Or if a person has a Venus in the 11th house - house of fame - and they don't work with their public image, they start gaslighting and manipulating their partner.

Find more insights about your Venus and Mars on saturn.love